Activity: Something I haven't got, and I don't wanna have!

I'm 27, and sadly at this age, for some reason, the fact of not becoming a mother has transformed in some kind of public problem. everytime I go shopping around the neighborhood, all the female neighbours (specially the older ones, which I wrongly supposed that were quite wiser) panic ove the fact I'm 27 and I "still" haven't got a child. 

"Why not?", "is there something wrong with your health?", "But what does your boyfriend thinks about it?" "But it's just so much joy to become a mother!", "If you don't have it soon, it can get out sick!" are some of the nasty comments I receive everywhere. 

The thing is that I actually don't want to be a mother, I don't want childs. Why? Honestly I find thousands of reasons why not having one. It's even hard to me to think about an actual good reason to have one. I have my boyfriend, we are pretty confident in each other since we have been lifelong friends before starting a relationship and he doesn't just respects my decision, but he also doesn't want kids as well. 

We are young, and we have way too much stuff to do, many goals to achieve. And I know everyone has them, but what people isn't concious at all is that everything has a cost. What do I mean? To get a career done, for example, you need time. Not just 5 years of your life, but probably more! And many hours, daily, will be just for studying, cause if you don't study like that and dedicate to the matter, you will not only do it wrongly and getting bad grades but also you'll not be entirely there, you will not give your best. That's the point not just with studying, but wih everything!  Either a career, a job, even something that can be considered a hobby works the exact same.  And what's the point of living if you can't put yourself entirely to something you love? 

Please, don't get confused: I have nothing against mothers, of course (which is one of the resposes I get from the same old ladies around my neighborhood when I tell them that I actually don't dream about having a little version of myself between my arms), I actually admire them. Usually, when doing any activity we enjoy, we kinda always get something in return. Money, power, contacts, cometimes nothing that heavy but still something that you enjoy tons. Also, most of the time those activities also don't depend that much on someone else to get done succesfully. You are free to go and do as you please! But with a child, that's a world of difference. 

A child is something so innocent, so dependable and fragile, that you have to dedicate you whole day to his care. It's a 24/7 job, without any pay, but actually filled with fees! It's cost a lot to have a baby, both psychosocially and economically. Also, if you happen to not have a family core that's strong enough to go on the adventure, i might break and the mother becomes the only being that takes care of every single need that little bud has. It's a ton of responsability! And the thing is that becoming a mother is the only job where you can't expect a single thing in return. Would you have a childs to actually tag along with them when you are old and need someone to rely on? Honestly, that sounds like giving birth to a future nurse for me, and it's kinda creepy (also, nothing says your kids are gonna stay by your side when you are old and grey. They have the right to live the life you gave them, and even if they don't abandone you, doesn't mean they must stick with you cause that's the reason they got born). Another example! Would you have a child cause the world is beautiful and you want him/her to see it? Honey, that sound sweet, but we are in 2023, and we can't even assure that we will have enough edible water for those tomorrow's kids. World is a mess, and I know it has always been, but I ain't think that's a good reason to bring em' here to suffer with us. In resume, the only reason to have childs it's love itself, and it comes with a gigantic sacrifice (which is filled with love, but it's still a sacrifice). 

I wanna live my life for myself, for my own desires and wishes, for my goals and everything that's in the middle. I admire those kind-hearted woman that dream about taking care of a little, fragile being. But my cats are enough respnsability (and a pretty expensive one, too), and I have way too many plans for my life and I can't not live it to the fullest. 

What about you? What do you think about it? 

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