Activity: Something I haven't got, and I don't wanna have!

I'm 27, and sadly at this age, for some reason, the fact of not becoming a mother has transformed in some kind of public problem. everytime I go shopping around the neighborhood, all the female neighbours (specially the older ones, which I wrongly supposed that were quite wiser) panic ove the fact I'm 27 and I "still" haven't got a child. 

"Why not?", "is there something wrong with your health?", "But what does your boyfriend thinks about it?" "But it's just so much joy to become a mother!", "If you don't have it soon, it can get out sick!" are some of the nasty comments I receive everywhere. 

The thing is that I actually don't want to be a mother, I don't want childs. Why? Honestly I find thousands of reasons why not having one. It's even hard to me to think about an actual good reason to have one. I have my boyfriend, we are pretty confident in each other since we have been lifelong friends before starting a relationship and he doesn't just respects my decision, but he also doesn't want kids as well. 

We are young, and we have way too much stuff to do, many goals to achieve. And I know everyone has them, but what people isn't concious at all is that everything has a cost. What do I mean? To get a career done, for example, you need time. Not just 5 years of your life, but probably more! And many hours, daily, will be just for studying, cause if you don't study like that and dedicate to the matter, you will not only do it wrongly and getting bad grades but also you'll not be entirely there, you will not give your best. That's the point not just with studying, but wih everything!  Either a career, a job, even something that can be considered a hobby works the exact same.  And what's the point of living if you can't put yourself entirely to something you love? 

Please, don't get confused: I have nothing against mothers, of course (which is one of the resposes I get from the same old ladies around my neighborhood when I tell them that I actually don't dream about having a little version of myself between my arms), I actually admire them. Usually, when doing any activity we enjoy, we kinda always get something in return. Money, power, contacts, cometimes nothing that heavy but still something that you enjoy tons. Also, most of the time those activities also don't depend that much on someone else to get done succesfully. You are free to go and do as you please! But with a child, that's a world of difference. 

A child is something so innocent, so dependable and fragile, that you have to dedicate you whole day to his care. It's a 24/7 job, without any pay, but actually filled with fees! It's cost a lot to have a baby, both psychosocially and economically. Also, if you happen to not have a family core that's strong enough to go on the adventure, i might break and the mother becomes the only being that takes care of every single need that little bud has. It's a ton of responsability! And the thing is that becoming a mother is the only job where you can't expect a single thing in return. Would you have a childs to actually tag along with them when you are old and need someone to rely on? Honestly, that sounds like giving birth to a future nurse for me, and it's kinda creepy (also, nothing says your kids are gonna stay by your side when you are old and grey. They have the right to live the life you gave them, and even if they don't abandone you, doesn't mean they must stick with you cause that's the reason they got born). Another example! Would you have a child cause the world is beautiful and you want him/her to see it? Honey, that sound sweet, but we are in 2023, and we can't even assure that we will have enough edible water for those tomorrow's kids. World is a mess, and I know it has always been, but I ain't think that's a good reason to bring em' here to suffer with us. In resume, the only reason to have childs it's love itself, and it comes with a gigantic sacrifice (which is filled with love, but it's still a sacrifice). 

I wanna live my life for myself, for my own desires and wishes, for my goals and everything that's in the middle. I admire those kind-hearted woman that dream about taking care of a little, fragile being. But my cats are enough respnsability (and a pretty expensive one, too), and I have way too many plans for my life and I can't not live it to the fullest. 

What about you? What do you think about it? 

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Post 1: Who am I?: Taka, the "Bussy Mess"

 Hi! My name is Ana Vásquez but you can call me Taka! I'm 27 years old and I'm from Pedro Aguirre Cerda, Santiago, in Chile! You might be wondering why I called myself "A Busy mess" in the title but don't worry, I'll explain. 

Since I was a child I have been interested in lots of stuff. I wanted to become a singer, a music composer, a writer and a journalist, also a zoologist and a professional freeskate roller. Yeah, so defined. The thing is that I'm so curious and also I have a lot of energy! Like I have a giant battery installed in my back- that's why I always run for everything, to be everywhere and do everything I like to! That led me to currently be a journalism student, also a street singer and also a Stray Cat Shelter's voluntary, and to be interested in many topics and wanting to study a lot of subjects. But that would be even possible without my family- specially my mom.

I live in a small family of three humans: My mother, Valeria, is divorced housewife that has been working as a seller most of her life to sustain the family; my little brother, Nori, who is an autodidact artist; my 6 cats (Checho, Diego, Jolyne, Josuke, Lucius and Lupin), who are a mess; and my dog, Arthur, who is talented at eating stuff that he shouldn't be eating. Yes, I don't look like it (cause I'm not exactly tall) but I'm the big sis! <3

When I was (even more) little, my mother constantly put her efforts in encouraging my curiosity. Whenever and wherever I asked something, she replied consistently and explained me every single detail. 

"Mom, can I touch the plug?" 

"No, cause you might get electrocuted"

"What does electrocuted mean?"

"Inside the plug there is a thing called "electricity". It's necessary cause it's the energy we use for all the home devices to work properly. You see, if you disconnect the plug, it stops working. But that energy, if you touch it, can be pretty dangerous."

"Woah, but why is it dangerous? We don't receive it?"

"No, we don't, that energy is too heavy for us. If you touch it and you get electrocuted, that huge energy can burn your body and you can die."

"Oh, it really is dangerous. That's why we use cables?"

And so, all the conversations with my mother were pretty much like that. She has a lot of patience! So, because of that constant effort, I'm very curious to this very day. I always got interested in everything and got labelled as "pretty smart" in school, even when most of the teachers couldn't deal with my energy. That never pulled me off and my mom was always there to talk-out stuff with the teachers, so I kept on growing up as a energy-filled bookworm. 

One thing my mother teached me before anything was to read. My curiosity drived me anxious when, at night, my mother would read me just half of the story in any children's book. "I only can read you a part of the story right now, you might have to wait for tomorrow night, unless you learn to read". So I learned pretty fast and got in school reading since 4 years old (something pretty common nowadays, but at 2000 that was a thing!). That's how I ended up reading tons of books and, eventually, moving into news. 

Finally, my mother always encouraged me to sing when she noticed I liked it. I can't even remember since when I do it, but it's an activity I used to enjoy with my brother when he was little and loved to play the piano. At the time he doesn't play that much, but practices as much as he can, and have also got some interest in playing the saxophone and the drums, and composing digital music as well. Nowadays he dedicates more time to his art, and is studying Ilustration. In the other side, at 18 years old I started working in pretty much anything and, after doing many jobs, I ended up catching the fly by singing in the streets. I have been doing it for 6 years till' now and I'm pretty proud of my work! So is my mom <3

The interest for animals that I had in my youth tranformed into wanting to help (but not understaing science at all). Since becoming a vet wasn't a deal for me, I signed with a small organization that dedicates to rescue and give away stray cats to their forever homes. Sadly, the organization dissarmed in 2020 because of the pandemic, most of the volunteers couldn't keep up their work and ended up quitting. So I'm one of the few voluntares that keep up the hard work, along with my mom! 

Even when I'm constantly bussy and my schedules are always a mess, I can't say I don't love what I do! I enjoy a lot singing everywhere in Santiago and walk around bohemian neighborhoods, also I love my career and to have the need to learn more about everything to accomplish it properly, and I feel so proud of working hard for those little furry balls with eyes that meow me whenever they see me. 

I'm a Busy Mess! And it's quite a title for me!

If you wanna check up my work, I'm gonna drop here some links! 

This is our organization (what's left of it): "Adopta Rescatado Stgo" (@AdoptaUnGatitoRescatado en instagram), and this one is my music page! In this work, I use the nick "Atria" (stands for Atria, the main star in the Triangulum Australe): @Atria.music . Also, here is my bro's page. Go check it out, he is such a wonderfull artist!: Necromancy Advocate. 

Bye- bye!